When I first moved out to LA from Cleveland, I was tired of stability. The stable job (although I can’t complain about stable income 🙂 ), the stable relationships, the stable city, and overall, the stable… Life. THAT was not what I really wanted. I knew I had dreams to accomplish. But inside, I was anything but stable, which reflected what I saw on the outside.
I looked up the definition of stability. Merriam-Webster says it means “to have strength and to endure.” Now think about this. What is our traditional interpretation of stability? The white picket fence, the overflowing money and dynamic career, the best bodies, the perfect family? Well, the true definition If stability is to have strength and to be able to endure what arises.
Yes, I am now at the point in my life where I have accomplished quite a bit out here in LA and also sacrificed a lot so I am looking for more stability in my career, income and relationships and I also appreciate cities like Cleveland so much more! But no matter what we have sacrificed or lost or what we have gained and savored, stability can only be found in our ability to have strength and to endure. These qualities are influenced positively or negatively from our circumstances but they can only be maintained from within. No matter what is going on in your life right now, good and bad, you can only find stability from what you tell yourself every day, who you surround yourself with and how you can make your life the best it can be with the circumstances at hand.
I have made a lot of money and I have lost a lot of money. I have been in great relationships and I have also been in terrible ones. I have been healthy and I have been sick. And, according to the definition, I have been stable and I have not. But my stability, I have realized, can be found and maintained regardless if I was any of the above or none of the above.
We must first be stable within us to find and appreciate our stability in everything and everyone else.